This is a fantastic article (click above) about what it’s like when a partner is abusive in ways that aren’t normally talked about. Well worth a read.
This part really resonated with me –
“it was only in hindsight that I saw the quiet, insidious, emotional abuse in inflicted on me – one I am still healing from, and that hurt more that the couple of random slaps. That undermined my confidence and my sense of self more than any physical damage he could have done.”